And I think in your 40s, you land a little bit, physically and mentally, you arrive at a place where you feel you've learned some stuff. Having children at that point meant I had something very useful to do for the next 20 years. Mark Strong

"So are you done?" I get that question every so often. I have 6 kids ON PURPOSE, that surprises/shocks/horrifies some people.  Sorry, I'm not sorry.

When asked my answer is,

 "I've been done 3 times."

We were done after the twins.  3 boys in 2 years=tired, stressed parents.  We were DONE!

We were done after Serenity.  We finally had a daughter, our family was complete.

We were done after Belle.  We were getting older and this would be it for us.

Hello #6.  

Lesson learned. We have learned to never put a period where God puts a comma. Are we planning to expand our family with more children? No.  We have no plans to adopt again. 

 But to take a verse out of context

 "Nevertheless, not my will, but yours, be done.”"

To summerize: Don't ask people if they are done having kids. 

 #1 Its rude.

 #2 It's not a short answer.